Intergroup communication is a challenging endeavor filled with mistakes, microaggressions, politics, and insensitivities. Handled correctly, positive communication can lead to greater intergroup understanding and improved cross-cultural relationships. In the spirit of promoting positive intergroup relations, below are some comments and questions you should never direct at members of the GLBTIQ community.
"How do you know you're gay if you've never been with a woman?"
"Gay guys love me!"
"I'm like a gay man trapped inside a woman's body."
"Wow. I never would have guessed that you're [gay, lesbian, bi, or transgender] you seem so straight."
"Why aren't there any pretty lesbians?"
"I suspected you were gay."
"I wouldn't want my son to be gay, just because life would be so much harder for him then."
"My boyfriend isn't homophobic, he's just uncomfortable around gay guys."
"Which bathroom do you use?"
"What do you like to do in bed?"
To a transgender person: "What's your real name? What did you used to look like?"
"It's too bad you're gay."
"Is one of you the husband and one the wife? I don't get it."
"Men are so awful/confusing/difficult, I wish I was a lesbian. It would be so much easier."
"This is my gay friend _____."